![]() The other person will think you’re interested and you’ll suffer through a second date, distant and far from engaged. Instead you’re just delaying the inevitable. While it may be hard to say NO to a second date, think about it this way: you’re not really sparing that person’s feelings. So after that first date with a new person, if you don’t feel like it’s going anywhere-say so and move on. Have fun! (And yes, you can tell the truth AND have fun!) Savor your experiences, talk about your loves, your likes, your dislikes…dive in and be there. There’s nothing wrong with going on lots of first dates. If you’re honest, authentic and present on every date, you’ll learn so much about yourself and each person you meet. When dating, consider going out with lots of different people to discover more about what you want in a partner. Let’s think about the big picture: what do you want out of this date? If you’re not getting it, don’t be afraid to say how you’re feeling out loud (without being mean)-trust me, the world around you isn’t going to crumble! Both of you will probably be just fine, and then you can move forward from there. Instead of engaging and being honest, many of us either put on a happy face and “smile through anything” or we become distant, just hoping to “get through it.” But that’s no way to live. But what if you like your date’s personality, but you’re just not attracted to them? What if you end up in an uncomfortable conversation that conflicts with your values? What if only one of you is interested in a second date? Yikes! I will be present enough to know what I like or dislike about this person, and I will be real and honest.” From there, work to be present and go with the flow.Īdmittedly, being your true self is sometimes easier when a first date is going well. Prior to your date, try telling yourself, “I am going to be fully engaged while I’m there. ![]() Honesty on First DatesĪuthenticity on a first date can be difficult-but it’s completely worth it. Yes, always being your authentic self can be challenging, but it’s also the best way to learn and grow, and to get the most out of every date. ![]() After all, we’re getting to know perfect strangers, so often times our instinct is to put on a pleasant face and demeanor even when things aren’t going quite right.īut the entire dating experience can really change when you commit to honesty and authenticity. Authenticity is one of the hardest things to bring to the table when dating. ![]()
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